Dating a man going through a divorce
Divorce conjures up a toxic brew of unwanted, and sometimes irrational, emotions.
We suffer from fear – fear of the unknown, fear of loneliness, fear of losing friends or status in the community. All of these emotions are understandable, but, left unchecked, they prevent us from moving forward.
When I went through my divorce, I remember the last thing I wanted to talk about was how to divide our assets.
You have the power to build a wonderful life for yourself, regardless of whether you are married or not.With time, your family will be stronger than ever as you bring your passions to life. It’s not your fault that things worked out the way that they did. Beyond all else, remind yourself every day that you deserve to be happy.Give yourself permission to do the activities that you enjoy. You are a good person, worthy of the affection of others, no matter the reasons for your separation. In my experience, friends and family only have so much capacity for listening to our problems.They may also wonder how your separation will affect the family. Remind them that they will continue to have a relationship with both you and your ex-spouse.
For example, they may wonder what’s going to happen with family traditions. Tell them that you don’t need or want them to “pick sides.” They can make their own decisions.
The important thing is to not let these negative emotions define you or drag you down. The best way to avoid negative emotions is to fill your life with positive experiences.